#NoFearFriday

Sachin Sharma
Aug 25, 2017 · 2 min read

4 Types Of People That Will Offer You Advice

When identifying these people in your life it’s important not to judge them, regardless of their intentions for you — ultimately the future you create is your responsibility. Pointing the finger at others for their “bad advice” is refusal to accept the situation for what it is — this builds resentment to ourselves & others.

1. Lookouts — usually true friends. Lookouts will offer you advice based on where they see you going down the road and they may warn you about potential danger they see you walking into. You can identify the lookouts in your life by looking at the track record of the people in your life — see where they’ve steered you in the past.

2. Guardians — parental figures. Guardians can be friends, parents, spouses & animals that are sent to protect us when they sense ill-intent. Parents are usually the ones to tell us who are fake friends are before we even detect a hint of them. Guardians usually speak from experience and offer their advice to stop us from making the same mistakes they did.

3. Vultures — those who profit from your misfortune. Vultures have been through their fair share of struggles and instead of steering others away from hard times — they coerce them toward hardship. They do this for a number of reasons, the important thing is for us to acknowledge the vultures in our lives and distances ourselves from them. Identify them by the way the respond to seeing others struggling or in pain — vultures revel in the suffering of others.

4. Supporters — your biggest fans. Supporters are your cheerleaders, they want you to succeed — however they may be blindly supporting you. It’s important to have supporters in your corner, but only take their advice if they have in experience in what you’re dealing with. They may have your success in mind when advising you, but be aware that this is usually coming from a naive place. For example your mum might tell you to “go for it!” without knowing exactly what “it” is.

When it comes to taking advice from people, ask yourself one question before you do — “would I switch places with this person?”. If the answer is anything but “Hell yeah!” then you’ll need to consider where their intentions lie.

Looking within will reveal the answers you seek.

Peace & positive vibes.

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