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5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Relationship
I was once in an extremely dysfunctional and toxic relationship and I think it was one of the best things to happen to me. Now that I’ve been through the worst I know what to look out for next time.
Here are 5 signs to watch out for along your journey of manifesting a fulfilling relationship.
1. Double standards. It’s ok for them to do something — but not for you. This is a major sign that your partner (or you) is a narcissist and it would be best for both of you to end the relationship and heal yourselves before seeking out another relationship. Recognise your worth and walk away from anyone who treats you poorly.
2. Manipulating feelings. This one can go either way — if you’re trying to get each other to do something by making the other feel bad then you’re in a toxic relationship. If the relationship was full of love — you wouldn’t need to guilt your partner into doing anything for you — they would want to.
3. You seek each other’s permission. “Oh, my girlfriend wouldn’t like it if I did that” or “let me check if it’s ok with my boyfriend” — the sirens are ringing out loud and clear here. When you’re in a fulfilling relationship there are no aspects of control — you have mutual respect for one another’s individuality.
4. Making each other jealous. If your partner is trying to get your affection or attention by flirting with others — this is a sign that they are very insecure about themselves. You need to address your own insecurities that attracted this person into your life because our partners are a reflection of us.
5. You find it difficult to be alone. Again, this one goes either way — but if either of you find it hard to be with yourselves this can lead to dysfunctional behaviour like reading through emails, messages and tracking calls etc. This is a sign that the relationship you have with yourself needs healing — this cannot be done through having a relationship with someone else.
When you’re in a relationship remember that everything about your partner reflects something about yourself. Just because you recognise that they are toxic — doesn’t mean you are perfect. Acknowledge the parts of yourself that need healing to attract better to you in the future.
The relationship you have with yourself is the relationship you will have with others.
Peace & positive vibes.
