Life is Not Always Nice

Lori O'Gara
Jun 22, 2019 · 2 min read
Photo by Ryan Franco on Unsplash

I am so over the whining. Everywhere I go humans are complaining. Oh, poor me. Life isn’t fair. They are lamenting about jobs, family issues, politics, climate, food prices…on and on….negativity is spreading among us like wildfire on a dry hot California mountain. Passing from one person to the next. A plague of darkness

I am over it.

No, life is not going to be perfect all the time. You might have to deal with something that you do not want to do. That job you wanted you may not get. That person you have a crush on may not like you. Life has a way of letting you down and not so gently. It will toss you on your ass and walk away.

Stand up, dust off your fanny and pull yourself together.

How you handle the disappointments in life shows who you are as a person. Do you let the rest of the world know that your life sucks? Do you stomp around with a chip on your shoulder and pout about it?

Oh, yes, some adults do just that. They act like mad toddlers.

Negativity clings to some people like bad cologne.

Do not take it out on the innocent people in your life who you come in contact at work, home, school, or wherever.

Just stop it.

Give yourself the space to be disappointed and mad, but don’t live there for days, weeks, months, years…not even hours.

Figure it out and move on.

Look, life is unpredictable. Let the bad stuff go. Figure out what happened and do it differently next time. Recognize your part in the end result, take responsibility for it and fix it for the next adventure.

It will get better and I hate to break it to you, bad stuff will happen again. It is how you react to it that determines the rest of your story.

Believe in owning your story.

~Lori O’Gara

Thank you for your time. You can see more of my writing here.

P.S. If you send me a letter I will write you one back.

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