Stalking: The Tyranny of One Sided Learning — Part 2

Learn, Unlearn, Adjust… Wash Rinse and Repeat.

When we observe we learn yet, it’s only a part of the process.

If we are conscious about our learning process we absorb, process and re-shape our own thoughts through the information we are processing from that which we are observing.

Unconscious learning is more passive by nature where we may ‘pick up’ on different methods, ideas and processes though the experience may feel a bit foggy.

Since it’s impossible to consciously focus on everything all the time at this point in our collective human development there is always a combination of both conscious learning and unconscious learning happening to some degree at any given time.

This is why assumptions play such a big role, we need to make them to get through our day.

That assumption by itself when you are the object of a stalker, is a very big deal. It is also a step in bringing an ordeal to an end. A stalker will also make assumptions 8 times out of 10 about most everything and everyone.

The stalker may also be aware of this (to a greater or lesser degree and will likely compensate. How do you compensate for incorrect assumptions without showing yourself to be looking for information?

Why you get it from other people. Gossip, or just second hand information will be at least partially correct. That is better than completely wrong.

Take a natural drive to learn and layer on agendas, un-resolved desires, frustrations, obsessions, wounds (both perceived and real) aggressions, blame, resentment, projected attitudes representing whatever emotional, mental, psychic knot is present in someone and well… it goes to a dark place very quickly.

This can and will vary from circumstance to circumstance. In ours we were dealing with a resentful, highly manipulative resentful stalker who is an opportunist.

From a practical perspective this meant if they decided to trespass on our property and there are gardening tools sitting out then well there will be some creativity with gardening tools. Like they might disappear or be moved or get used to tear up the garden.

This means any unlocked vehicles will be rifled through and often vandalized.

If there are clothes pins left on the line, they will be re-arranged or disappear, only to be found somewhere else.

That was a fraction of what we dealt with.

What I did see was the learning curve. They (yes, for at least a little while there was more than one stalker) learned from what they did, how they did it, to get better at doing it.

Observation and Reflection

To observe reflect, adapt and change is an active part of a steady learning curve. This is all about repetition with small changes made each time to reflect insights. It takes awareness, intention and consciousness.

It also takes patience needed to reach a goal. Don’t mistake this for patience for the sake of patience. Patience for the sake of being or developing patience is rare.

You will know the difference because once it becomes apparent the goal is not acheivable, you may find out through an epic tantrum or violent outburst just how patient they are not. A stalker is likely only as patient as they feel their goal can be acheived. It was certainly the case with us.

Practice Makes Perfect

The stalker and any accomplices also receive self validation from the effort invested in criminally learning at the expense of someone else. This is especially so if their process yields desired results. As a bonus to this is any additional insights and knowledge from the success of that process.

The interesting thing is; learning requires humility and at some point a direct connection to the source of your learning focus.

You cannot learn everything (but you can learn a lot) vicariously or second hand information via others.

Stalkers in general learn (or at least gather information)at the expense of others. They would not be sneaking around trying to watch you when you think no one is watching if this were not so. Stalkers will go to extreme lengths to hide what is otherwise a very natural human desire to learn(this has been the case with the stalker we have had to deal with)

While they may have a very intuitive streak, it may be limited and display a proportional amount of inaccuracies depending on the degree of incorrectness in their understanding of their target skewed and emotional state.

A Consciousness Built on Negative Spaces

This is the hard part about a consciousness that is built on the ‘emotional negative spaces’. This topic alone is at least it’s own article.

For purposes of keeping an open mind I don’t want to type cast traits with people I have seen with this ability to perceive. I do want to note I have seen it consistently enough to write about it. The stalker we have had to deal with is one of these types.

Those folks may have an unusual intelligence to survive and develop the way they do but the unlearning they need to go through to get past the extreme negativity… will challenge them deeply since their early learning processes were tied so closely to survival or perceived survival.

So, it is not an unreasonable assumption to conclude that while a stalker is learning whatever they are at our expense, they too have blind spots. So to be able to catch a stalker, at the very least you have to discover their blind spot.

After all how do you catch someone who is using your blind spot to abuse you?

You have to discover their blind spot. To do that you have to step out of your own head first.