I am a (practicing) Stoic, not a stoic

I have a good friend, Y., who thinks of herself as a “natural Stoic.” I keep telling her that she is most definitely not. Rather, she is a stoic. There is a big difference. (Throughout this essay, note the use of capitalized Stoic vs lower case stoic.)

Case in point: a few days ago I hit a rough patch with another friend, H., who had suddenly behaved in a very aggressive fashion toward me. I was…