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Keeping Everyday Balance

We go through life so often in such a regulated routine, that no matter what we’re doing in that routine, it all can seem so normal. We go about our days and nights living and breathing, often forgetting all about mindfulness. We have to stop every once in a while, take a look at the big picture and ask ourselves if we are living a life of balance.

Just how much stuff are we involved in? These days, people can be way over-involved in activities, going way beyond working, eating, and sleeping. We can wear ourselves rather thin, doing so much, for so many others. I am a wholehearted supporter in offering one’s hand to help another. But are we stopping for a minute to ask ourselves, who are these people we’re helping?

What we have to look at is the big picture when it comes to the favors we offer. Are we doing things for those in our lives that are real friends, or loved ones who would do the same for us if asked? It seems like it can be so easy to get visually blurred when assessing whether or not a person in our life is in it for good reasons, or ulterior motives.

It is easy to unknowingly get sucked into relationships that offer toxicity. Take a look at the big picture, and be sure to have quality people, that we can count on, and are with us, because they care. The kind of people that aren’t only present when times are happy and good. See who’s sticking around, when things are down in the dumps, and times are at their toughest. You will find many answers to life’s toughest questions after you do that.

That is one huge way to measure the quality of balance in our lives. However, there are other ways. We have to realize that inside us are often areas that are very good, or very bad.

It all develops from a technique we may do subconsciously, where we keep flooding focus and care to areas inside us that are doing great. And then we try to ignore areas that aren’t doing well, which then, just makes those bad areas worse. This scenario is one that requires us to grasp our problem areas and aim our mindfulness right into those parts.

If we have some darkness in our hearts or minds, can we assess things, and find any solutions? Or maybe we want to have those traits of darkness. If it were me, I would rather eliminate defects like those. Or else, I could never see myself finding balance if I remained like that.

We should stop and take a step back, and glance at our lives as a whole, as they’re happening. If we still feel that some parts of out of balance, focus hard on what the reasons why are. Is there a goal, or a dream out there, that we’ve allowed to slip from our hearts.

It happens to almost all of us. I understand that there are many dreams that are just not attainable, or realistic. But focus on a dream that we know we want, and we know we can certainly get. See if we can find an active starting line, and get on it.

We may often hear about many other ways and areas of improvement, whether it be categories like faith, love, career, hobbies, vacation, etc etc. This piece is not directly about those. What I’m talking about here is all the repairs that we can do to fix our own defect.

Once we are better able to tweak our own defects, many improvements will come into place. Our careers can improve, as can our relationships, our joy in our hobbies and recreation can grow, and the strengthening of our faith will take place.

In these days, we live lives that are faster, and more distracting than ever before. These type of modern day ways can sometimes make us blind or oblivious to our own issues. We may find ourselves walking into cold shoulders and unreturned messages. Always be sure when things like that happen, it is not a result of our own unbalance.

Michael Patanella

is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist, Advocate, and Recovering Addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and many other motivational topics. His articles, memoirs, and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Helping others out there still struggling.



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Michael Patanella

Michael Patanella


Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things.