A Great Relationship Creates Security

Not the other way around.

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I see people
who don’t know themselves well enough
to make any credible promises
about who they’ll be
or what they’ll want
ten or even five years from now…

who are desperate
for some kind of guarantee
or lifelong commitment
from their partner
in order to feel safe enough
to open more fully
in their relationship.

So here’s what we know:

1. YOU ARE GOING TO CHANGE.
2. So is your partner.
3. The kind of guarantee
   you’re looking for
   does not exist.

That said,
the best insurance—
the closest thing
we’ll ever have
to true security—
comes from co-creating
a great a relationship
that functions well
and feels good
for both people.