Breaking Up Doesn’t Terminate the Relationship
It’s actually just a better relationship
“Should we stay together or break up?”
If you’ve been together long enough to think of each other as life partners—or potentially so—but now you’re thinking of breaking it off, consider this.
Breaking up doesn’t mean you’re not still in relationship. If you break up, then that’s the new relationship.
Let me explain.
You already know this, but breaking up isn’t like deleting a file. You and your partner have shared experiences no one else on the planet will ever know about or understand. Your relationship has affected and altered you, in ways that will evolve but won’t disappear. The trajectory of your life has shifted. At the pearly gates, this person will figure in your life review. This is already in place.
When your lives have intertwined enough to consider a life together, something gets created, a connection that will transcend and outlast a breakup.
You can cut all contact with them, along with every person, place or object that you associate with them, and do your best to reset everything in your life back to exactly the way it was before. Kind of like trying to restore your life from a backup you made just minutes…
