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What a Breakup Can Sound and Feel Like

Not all breakups are ugly

This is what a breakup can sound and feel like:

• I get it. I see you and understand you. I get what it is you’ve been asking for. I in no way think your vision or desire is wrong, or that you’re somehow wrong for wanting it.
• I’m clear what’s being asked of me, what would be required, and I’m clear that it’s out of my range to be that/do that/provide that/go there with you.
  (Or… I’m declining because it’s not what I want.)
• I also feel deeply seen, understood, and gotten by you.
• I can see that you understand what I’ve been asking for. And I get that it’s out of your range to meet me in my vision and desire. (Or your conscious choice to decline.) In no way do I see any wrong in you for not meeting me there.
• I respect your choice, and feel no disrespect from you regarding mine.
• My heart aches, but we both accept that these are dealbreakers. It’s time for us to shift direction, and start crafting our new way of relating based on creating distance rather than togetherness.
• I will greatly miss and appreciate everything that has been wonderful about our relationship.
• I’m sad, and — I’m not gonna lie — oddly relieved. Like I can finally…