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A Short Man’s Take on the 80/20 Rule

A Short Man’s Take on the 80/20 Rule

I ranked low on (men’s perceived) dating criteria. So what about in real life?
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Resolved vs. Unresolved Breakups

Resolved vs. Unresolved Breakups

Breaking Up Does Not Mean Resolution
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On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
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Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
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Why I Stopped Using “Masculine” and “Feminine” (and What I Say Instead)

Why I Stopped Using “Masculine” and “Feminine” (and What I Say Inst...

In 2015 we set out to redefine healthy masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
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Are You Enjoying This, Or Just Being Kind?

Are You Enjoying This, Or Just Being Kind?

Here’s the best way to be honest about your level of enthusiasm.
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This Is Why Your Relationship Feels Like Work

This Is Why Your Relationship Feels Like Work

My wife and I were recently reflecting on how our relationship never feels like work. Even though it seems like we do a lot of the same…
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Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
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What a Breakup Can Sound and Feel Like

What a Breakup Can Sound and Feel Like

Not all breakups are ugly
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Mediocre sex is not an option.

Mediocre sex is not an option.

Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
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Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
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My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny

My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny

(My changing definition of respecting women)
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If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.
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Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

If you fight, fight like a pro.
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The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
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Fucking is an advanced practice

Fucking is an advanced practice

In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
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