3 Reasons I Fell In Love With Criticism
An open door to Growth.
1. Criticism = Feedback = Improvement
I started blogging a few months ago, and received a lot of compliments. It felt nice, for sure.
However, when I asked Tim Denning for feedback on one of my articles, it wasn’t positive. I’m not going to lie—it was hard to get back to writing for a few days. But I kept reading what he had told me and focused on his last words:
It’s harsh but I want you to succeed.
I had asked for feedback. I got genuine helpful advice from a great writer. We’ve never talked, yet he wants me to succeed. Why should I feel attacked?
I realized I hoped to get praise from Tim, since that would have been a massive external validation of my writing.
The truth is, his criticism help me 10x more than any form of compliment. I made sure I leveraged it without letting it daunt me, and have focused on improving on my writing and editing since.
2. Criticism = Exchanging Ideas = Growth
I love it so much when people respond to my articles. Sometimes, it’s to voice their appreciation, to say it resonated or to share an anecdote. Which I’m so grateful for.
And sometimes, it’s to disagree. And it’s great. Why ? Because it opens up a debate.
This happened a few days ago on an article I wrote about what I learned through yoga. One of my readers expressed reservations about the origins of the positive effects I was presenting.
As I took this opportunity to discuss it further, he made an interesting point and clarified mine.
We went back and forth and eventually understood each other much better.
3. Criticism = Blunt Attacks = Resilience
There is always going to be someone who will try to drag us down. What I’ve observed is that most of the time, that’s other people projecting their own fears on us, or trying to make themselves feel better by bringing others down.
Taking this as an assumption, I use it as an opportunity to train my resilient muscle. It’s just practice.
The more I disregard criticism that don’t drive me forward, the more confident I am in doing so.
So, it’s all about selecting what information I choose to let in, and what I choose to discard.
Changing my perpective on how I approach criticism has allowed me to leverage it rather than bow to it.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Thoughts? Feelings? Criticism? Please share them with me. Let’s discuss it!