Failure. Feels the same. It hurts.

Joel Mwakasege—Editor-in-Chief of BeYourself

I asked Joel to share with me one of his stories. I didn’t expect this.

Here’s what he wrote.

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Feels the same.

It hurts.

It’s an experience I never get used to.

Failure implies loss.

Loss of control.

Loss of time.

Loss of love.

It’s just lost.

And for it to be a failure.

There is that sense of never getting it back again.

Reasons for failure are many.

But the one I dread the most.

Is when it feels like it’s my fault.


I don’t know.

They are usually mixed feelings.

Anger, sadness, worry, and more so much more.

Why fail?

I’m not sure.

But I think I didn’t go with failure in mind. I go with different thoughts.

A dream to be achieved.

A song to be written.

A trust to be earned.

What I learned is there is no sense to think about failure.

I think it’s best to think about the gain.

When do I think back? I don’t do that often, but when I do, I only do so I can share.

I share because with sharing failure becomes something else, an experience, a triumph, a learning moment.

Thank you Joel.

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