Why Your Excuses Will Never Go Away UNLESS This Happens…
As a high achiever and someone wanting to maximize their life to live extraordinarily, one thing that is forever encompassed into us is the deep need for growth. Whether that is external growth in our circumstances, our relationships and business, or whether that is internal growth to become more each day, our lives are driven by the growth we experience.
Think about it: When there is growth in your life, how do you feel?
When you develop new skills, the intimacy in your relationship grows, you meet incredible people, explore new countries, overcome a fear, create new business opportunities, earn more money… Does this make you feel alive — TRULY alive?
Having worked with many high achiever’s and people looking to maximize their life, what I can tell you is that they all have an incredible desire and need to experience new levels of growth in their life. We all do!
Do you have a few friends or family members who continue to live their lives with the exact same routines, same people around them and same behavior and thought patterns as years previously? Are these people really growing?
So what can be said about those who fail to adapt new levels of growth into their life. Are they emotionally charged, energized, joyful and in pursuit of their best life? I would think not.
What about the man or woman who spends majority of their life, preparing for retirement only to find that retirement is the most boring thing they've ever done? Retirement for most, means stop everything and relax. There is no growth there, and where there is no growth there is boredom. How about a retirement plan where you become more engaged than ever before? Travelling to new lands, supporting purposeful organisations, developing new skills and mentoring others through life. There’s growth in that.
So where do limiting excuses come in on our journey of growth and achievement?
To experience growth we MUST be willing to do something new. Business opportunites don’t manifest themselves without our efforts into networking, marketing or putting ourselves out there. We don’t become more confident or courageous without learning or challenging ourselves to behave differently in new environments.
It is in the change we must create, that our excuses and limitations arise.
To Grow, I Must: (examples)
- Overcome my fears — Excuses arise as we near our fears
- Become disciplined in my life and career — Excuses arise to ‘let ourselves off the hook’
- Meet new and better people for my life — Excuses arise to avoid engaging with new people
- Read for 20 minutes per day — Excuses arise to ‘let ourselves off the hook’
- Embrace the challenge — The challenge is scary, excuses once again arise
There lies the paradox in our evolution and growth — We desperately need growth to feel fulfilled and alive, yet we have conditioned limiting patterns and beliefs that are designed to keep as safe and secure, avoiding all “harm”.
But where is the real harm?
Certainly, you won’t be harmed as you challenge your mental fears. Will it be painful to discipline yourself each day? Is it really such a risk to engage with better people?
… Again, I would suspect not.
As long as your excuses are serving as ‘safety’, they will never go away.
As long as in your mind growth=pain, then there will always be a limit on your potential to develop and become more.
What can be done you might ask?
We must become the masters of our meaning.
Every time a situation arises for you to grow as an individual, our actions will always be a result of the meaning which we give that situation. That meaning will become your empowered reason to take the necessary actions to grow, or the reasons to crawl back into your shell and feel the comfort of being safe and secure once again.
“Master the meaning, master your life” ~ Anthony Robbins
If there is an opportunity to meet that one person you've always looked up to, what are you thinking to yourself?
“He/She is very successful, it would be a waste of time to talk to me.”
“If I speak to them, they’ll probably just ignore me and I’ll look stupid”
IS THIS A REASON TO ACT? I would think not.
Let’s the meaning (perception).
“If I go and speak to them now, I may get that one piece of information I’ve been looking for so long now”
“If I speak to them now, I can sincerely thank them and engage with them simply as one human to another — This will be awesome!”
IS THIS A REASON TO ACT? Absolutely!
Every single moment, in any situation, we are adding meaning. That meaning dictates our response and our actions. It is up to us whether that meaning is positive and empowering or negative and weakening.
When you give a weak meaning to a situation, rationalization and excuses will always arise… even worse, you will be the one to justify them.
When a situation is empowering, you become compelled to act and your excuses become nonsense as they are not going to protect you but only minimize you!
You deserve to be growing every single day.
You deserve to seize the opportunities that come your way.
You deserve to become more and exceed your potential.
Cast out the excuses and empower yourself to act,
That is how you become a high achiever.
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