Navigating Love and Self-Love in Your 30s: The Benefits of Being Married and Single as a Black Woman

Mo Waller
Sweet Soul Therapy
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2 min readApr 14, 2023

Navigating love and self-love can be challenging for anyone, but it can be especially complex for Black women in their 30s. Between societal pressures and cultural expectations, it can be difficult to balance the desire for romantic love with the need for self-love and personal growth. In this article, we will explore the benefits of being married and single in your 30s as a Black woman, and how each choice can impact your mental health, well-being, and sense of self. Whether you’re in a committed relationship, single and loving it, or somewhere in between, this article aims to provide insight and guidance to help you navigate the complex terrain of love and self-love in your 30s.

Mental health professionals have found that there are potential benefits and drawbacks to being married or single in your 30s, and for black women this can vary depending on individual circumstances and life goals. Here are some of the benefits that have been identified:

Benefits of being married in your 30s:

  1. Emotional support: Marriage can provide emotional support and companionship, which can help individuals navigate the challenges and stresses of adulthood.
  2. Financial support: Being married can provide financial support, as couples can share expenses and income.
  3. Family planning: For individuals who want to have children, being married can provide a supportive environment for family planning and child-rearing.
  4. Health benefits: Married individuals have been found to have better physical health and live longer than their single counterparts.

Benefits of being single in your 30s:

  1. Autonomy and freedom: Being single can provide individuals with a greater sense of autonomy and freedom, as they have more control over their time and decisions.
  2. Personal growth: Being single can provide opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery, as individuals have more time and space to pursue their own interests and goals.
  3. Career opportunities: Being single can provide greater flexibility to pursue career opportunities and advancements, as individuals may have fewer family obligations to balance.
  4. Social connections: Being single can provide opportunities for social connections and a diverse range of relationships, as individuals have more freedom to socialize and build connections with a wider range of people.

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Mo Waller
Sweet Soul Therapy

Writer. Mental Health Professional. Human. Optimistic Realist.