5 Small Habits That Will Improve Your Dating Life

You need to become the type of person that you want to love.

Matt Lillywhite
The Startup
Published in
5 min readJan 15, 2020


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Do you want to find someone to love?

Do you ever wonder why you’re not having any luck meeting new people?

If you’re anything like me, you want to find an ideal partner, settle down in a beautiful city, and spend the rest of your lives living happily ever after while raising a family.

After all, every single one of us wants to fall in love, have great relationships, and live a life that we once considered impossible. But with over 7.7 billion people on the planet, finding “the one” can be like searching for a needle in a haystack. It’s difficult, isn’t it?

Over the years, I’ve discovered that it’s pointless waiting for your perfect spouse to appear as if you were in a magical fairytale. So a better solution is implementing attractive qualities into your own life so that your ideal partner is naturally drawn to you. In the words of Jim Rohn:

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”

So below are several habits that you can implement to improve your chances of finding your ideal partner. Each of these insights helped me to upgrade my life & become the person that my perfect partner would want to love. I’m confident they will do the same for you, too.

Find Positive Influences.

When you’re continually striving to become a better person, that mentality will reflect in both your relationships & daily life. As Dan Buttner once said: “the people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits.”

For example, if you’re friends with people who inspire you to fulfill your potential, you’ll likely be more optimistic when dating.

I’ve recently started spending less time with friends who are continually negative when we’re together. As a result, I’m significantly happier in my daily life as people with pessimistic attitudes no longer surround me.

So take a moment to consider how you can start spending more time with friends who have optimistic…



Matt Lillywhite
The Startup

Storytelling is a superpower. You can find my work in Publishous, Mind Cafe, and other publications.