5 powerful ways to change your life when you feel frustrated and hopeless

Tiffany Sanya
Jan 9, 2020 · 3 min read

“He who walks in another’s tracks leaves no footprints” Anonymous

Stagnation and lack of progress often boils down to our inability to go our own way. In our need to fit in, be liked and accepted, we dilute every aspect of our individuality.

The question then becomes, how do we discover this much needed mental freedom so that we can live more intentionally in 2020?

1. Learn to spend some time alone

We can at times lose ourselves to group identity, hence why solitude can be a powerful way to regain the balance. Those who appreciate this can thus make the psychological separation between being alone and being lonely.
The latter is always a matter of choice.

Solitude thus becomes the space we carve out to not only recharge but to make some independent decisions, free from the opinions and pressure that comes with being with others.

2. Be present

A challenge for most of us given how obsessed we are either with the past or the future.
The danger remains that as our mind and thought processes are tied up to episodes that we are not in control of, we limit our ability to simply live in the ‘here and now’.

We allow our fears and anxieties to run riot, causing us distress.
It sounds ludicrous but I occasionally leave myself notes around the house with the words ‘breath’ on it.

Embracing the present is about developing full awareness of what is happening both outside and inside of you. It therefore leads to a much more calmer and happier state for creativity to flow.

3. Make ‘doing the hard things’ your norm

What stands between us and the life we dream of, is a set of actions that we constantly talk ourselves out of because it demands that we leave our comfort zones behind.
Hence how procrastination creeps in, the years pass by and all we have to show for it is good intentions.
Think about it, there are a million decisions between intentions and outcome.

And the very act of executing even on the most minuscule level is how we gain confidence to unlock the next feat.

4. Act on what you know

We deceive ourselves into believing that knowledge is power. But in reality, it is only potential power.

This is why the people who know the most often do the least.

Their preoccupation with knowledge has become a burden to the point where despite knowing so much, their life bears no traces of it.

It is in motion that we harness our knowledge. It therefore allows us not not only see how it works in practise, but also refine it in order to maximise the potential for success.

5. Heed the lessons in your experiences, both the good and the bad.

The powerful practise that will not only help you develop your innate motivation but also find your writing voice. Going your own way can be lonely at first especially if you have an uncommon dream or are surrounded by people who are satisfied with leading an average life.

I’ve seen this concept play out in my life. I don’t consider myself to be any more talented or gifted than any other person, but what compels me to be bold in sharing my gifts with the world is the conviction that nothing I have experienced will be wasted.

Especially the negative experiences like heartbreak, tragedy, criticisms and rejections which act as a bridge to reach others who might be going through the same.

I close by saying that….

Getting unstuck will require that you carry out an independent assessment of what matters to you, and also what gives your life meaning, then taking every action within your power to materialise it.

Tiffany Sanya

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Committed to living intentionally. Writing to make sense of it all. Now on Youtube-https://youtu.be/RnVpNG4KNaA

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Tiffany Sanya

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Committed to living intentionally. Writing to make sense of it all. Now on Youtube-https://youtu.be/RnVpNG4KNaA

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Get smarter at building your thing. Follow to join The Startup’s +8 million monthly readers & +725K followers.

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