8 Ways to Cope Better with Holiday Events (by a Therapist)

How to take care of yourself and make things more enjoyable

Some of the world’s major holidays are almost here (and others have already started), and let’s face it:

There are parts of the holiday that you just dread

Maybe the celebrations are just obligations.

Maybe they go on too long, and you don’t like being around some of the people.

Maybe you don’t like social gatherings, or you’re so tired that you don’t want to go.

Or maybe you just don’t feel what you’re supposed to feel. (And who hasn’t had that experience?)

Here are two articles I wrote on the subject, and they’re still as useful as they were when I wrote them. (After all, human nature doesn’t change — nor do holiday events.) Why not take a look?


Click to read “7 Coping Strategies for the Holidays (and Other Days)

You have more freedom than you think; you just have to know what to do. You can take time for yourself — and do it the right way. You can take a break from the event. You can even decide not to go. Read this article to learn about these ideas and more.


Click to read “The ‘It’s a Wonderful Life’ technique for feeling that you belong

You’re at a holiday event and everybody but you is full of the holiday spirit. You just don’t feel happy, honestly happy. By using a technique called the mental subtraction of relationships, you can feel genuine warmth at being where you are.


You deserve to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy in this holiday season. Read these articles and you’ll be on your way.


Dear Reader, Medium’s decision to allow 1 to 50 👏🏽s is crazy. So I think of clapping as a 1-to-5-stars rating, with 10 claps = 1 star.

I clap 10 times — or 20 — for the articles I read. Not clapping at all feels bad.

Please help me out. It helps me reach more people like you. Thanks!

This story is published in The Startup, Medium’s largest entrepreneurship publication followed by +401,714 people.

Subscribe to receive our top stories here.