Accept Your Current Situation As If You Had Chosen It
Make life your friend, not your enemy
I was always a person that used to rage inwardly about a situation I didn’t like. Much like a petulant child, if life wasn’t going exactly my way I would feel angry, miserable, or just frustrated.
Whether that was sitting in a 9–5 office job I didn’t like, or being held back due to some health situation, or someone unexpectedly leaving my life — things were not fully under my control, and well, I just didn’t like it.
However, there is a technique I have started to employ in recent months which not only brings a sense of peace, but has been pretty transformative when it comes to finding a new sense of control in whatever is going on in my life at that time. It comes from Eckhart Tolle’s ‘The Power of Now’:
Accept each moment as if you had chosen it.
We think we have control over our lives, but we don’t. We only have a tiny locus of control — what we think and feel, what we say, and what we do.
We have control over ourselves and how we show up in the world — the rest is seemingly out of our reach.
We can’t control events, or how other people react to what we think, feel, say or do.
