An analysis of how good intentions can ultimately lead to bad outcomes.
Stretching ourselves too thin on the quest to ease the obligation of those we care for as well as meeting the demands and expectations of superiors and partners can be a dangerous undertaking.
What starts as kindness and acquiescence often ends in exasperation and total fatigue. We strive tirelessly to take on other people’s tasks, and in the process, we exhaust ourselves to the point of emotional instability.
“Don’t chain your worries to your body. The burden soon becomes heavy and your health will give too much of itself to pick up the extra load.” Astrid Alauda
Ultimately, this can manifest in a series of unrealistic expectations and a toxic desire for acknowledgment and appreciation. When we do not receive it, our self-worth takes a hit. We can feel unworthy and incompetent taking us deeper into the rabbit hole.
Further, competition in the workplace can force you to make choices that go outside of our ethical boundaries and comfort zones.
When we seek that promotion or feel a strong need to impress our superiors, we can cut corners and take higher risks. We live on the edge. This situation is frightening and exhausting.
“You should not confuse your career with your life” Dave Barry
It’s unsustainable and almost always ends in ruin.
Lastly, unreasonable partners and bosses can suck the life out of you. They are never satisfied with your efforts and are always demanding more in addition to the efforts you’ve already put forth.
The constant pressure makes one uneasy, full of apprehension, anxiety, and resentment. It is toxic, and it is incredibly unhealthy.
We must learn to protect yourself by taking a closer look at what is expected of you as well as how exhausted you currently are trying to meet your current demands.
“My encouragement: delete the energy vampires from your life, clean out all complexity, build a team around you that frees you to fly, remove anything toxic, and cherish simplicity. Because that’s where genius lives.” Robin Sharma
Is it worth running on empty in perpetual misery attempting to please others? As well as striving for acknowledgment that is meaningless to the source but the very essence of what you desire?
No, it isn’t.
You are more valuable than the specific energy sources that are depleting you.
Be kind to yourself and protect what matters. That is your long term health, both physical and mental.
Our best selves should be saved for our loved ones and delivering value and contribution purposely to something meaningful and deserving.