Be Careful What You Wish for in Life
Have you ever dreamed of a full time writing gig?
Many of us imagine how if we didn’t work or have other responsibilities we’d write more frequently.
In my experience this may not be the case. My best performing stories have all been crafted during the limited time slots I have available during the week.
On weekdays I get up early and write. There is a time limit (before I fly out the door) — but I write well under pressure. Perversely during holidays and at weekends I am less productive — despite having so much more time to write.
At weekends I read, go the gym or catch up with friends. These are worthwhile activities — yet time and again I fail to convert my free time into writing.
Yet come Monday you’ll find me energized and tapping stories (like this one) into my phone on the train on my way to and from work.
I still fantasize about quitting my job. Yet in my heart of hearts, I know a structured work routine is helpful for my writing.
Sometimes when we get what we want, we wind up less happy than when we started.
Have you ever made a wish and got what you wanted, only to find that the reality did not match your expectation? Or that it didn’t fulfill you in the way you thought it would?
There’s a reason why so many lottery winners end up as cautionary tales — as depressed, broke, or worse. It’s because they have a clear idea of what they want, but they don’t consider how their lives will change when they get it.
When we focus on what we want we sometimes fail to consider the implications of actually getting it.
I have experienced this firsthand.
As a teenager I dreamed of backpacking around Europe. Of course, the reality was very different to my fantasy. For starters it was freezing cold. I was constantly homesick. I didn’t get along with my travel companions. At one point I ran out of cash (it was a bank holiday) and had to sleep in train depot!
While I do have good memories of my trip, I was relieved to return home by the end. I missed my friends and family, my creature comforts and a sense of safety and security in my surroundings. I guess you could say my starry eyed wanderlust got cured by the reality of the experience.
Develop a growth mindset
A desire to be happy is not wrong. But happiness is more about the journey than the destination. Chasing goals and learning new things is what makes most people happy.
At the end of the day, no matter what your goals, you’re never going to achieve complete satisfaction. Life is more complex than that. So be sure to re-evaluate and update your goals regularly.
At the same time, consider what you have to give up for your “wish” to come true — in other words, be careful what you wish for in life!
Thank you for reading!
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