How To You Overcome Rejection In Life
Rejection hurts no matter who you are. It doesn’t matter what you are being rejected from or the significance that the situation has on your life, getting rejected sucks. As humans, we want nothing more than to feel like we belong, and well, rejection basically strips us bare of that feeling.
What we fail to realize, though, is that there is a time and a place for everything. Getting rejected doesn’t mean that we aren’t good enough, it doesn’t mean that others are better than us, and it definitely doesn’t mean that we should give up. Getting rejected simply means that whatever we are being rejected from just isn’t for us at this current moment in time.
I want to share something with you because I want to be as real as I possibly can. It’s time that I start swallowing my own words and practice what I preach, even when it’s hard to do so. I could sit here and tell you that life is easy, but I think we all know by now that would be a lie.
One week ago I took a risk on myself. I set aside all of my fears, and I applied for a dream job. For the first time in a long time, I felt ready. I was filled with excitement, hope, and optimism. I even went as far as envisioning myself working in the position that I had applied for. It felt as if that position was meant for me and there was nothing that could stop me from getting it.
Today, though, I was notified that I had been rejected. After a short phone interview, I was told that they have decided to move forward with other applicants, none of which being me.
The job that I thought was meant for me, the one that I had been so excited to have just didn’t have the same feelings towards me.
After a few hours of trying to compose my thoughts, trying to piece together where things went wrong, and doubting the fact that I should have ever applied in the first place, I have finally managed to gain some clarity.
How To Overcome Rejection
Yes, being rejected sucks. It hurts, it stings, and it can cause you to feel like a complete and utter failure. But do you want to know what’s worse than getting rejected? Never even giving yourself a chance.
It’s one thing to be down on yourself after getting rejected, especially when those individuals only get to see a glimpse of who you truly are as an individual and you know that you have so much to give, but it’s a completely different thing to never believe in yourself enough to even give yourself the opportunity to be rejected. As much as it hurts to be rejected, at least you will be able to say that you believed in yourself enough to take that risk.
Your failures will never define you unless you allow them to, and the only way that you can allow them to ever define you is by giving up on yourself and giving up on achieving each and every one of your goals.
What To Do After Getting Rejected
Yeah, you got rejected. Who cares? Now, it’s time to get over it and move on, because guess what, the world around you is never going to stop and wait for you to get it together.
No matter what you do, never, and I mean NEVER give up on yourself. Continue to move forward, continue to claw and scratch your way to the top, and continue to take chances on yourself. Only those who are crazy enough to take a chance on their dreams will ever achieve their dreams.
Rejection doesn’t define who you are as a person. It doesn’t define how strong you are, your value as a person, or what you are capable of accomplishing, so don’t even think about giving it the power to do so. There are going to many more opportunities moving forward, some of which are going to hold the same result, but if you aren’t willing to at least give yourself a chance, then you will never know what you are truly capable of achieving.
Never Say Never
As for me, yeah, I will admit that I wasn’t feeling all too highly about myself, but I’m not going to give up. Being told no is never going to define what I can and what I am going to achieve in my life. Instead, I am going to take this as a learning experience. I am going to seek the positives, look for ways in which I can improve, and go right after my goals again.
Oddly enough, I actually have more belief in myself right now than I did a week ago when I first applied for the position. It might seem weird to you, but not only did I move past my fears by taking a chance on myself and doing something outside of my comfort zone, but to be able to prove to myself that I have the strength to get right back up after getting knocked down, now that is something that I am incredibly proud of myself for.
Despite your religious views, I personally see it as God’s way of telling me that this position wasn’t meant for me at this exact time, and for that, I am thankful. I want to be the best that I can be at everything that I do, and if that means getting knocked down only to have to pick myself right back up again, then that’s what I will do.