How Do You Feel About It?
The most important question you can ask others or yourself
I don’t remember exactly why he started to tell me the story of how his dog has died recently. We were having a small talk while we were waiting for a loved one in common. He wasn’t a friend but an acquaintance. I think he was telling the story to me before he was going to tell this loved one in common.
He wasn’t at home when the dog fell ill. It looked that it wasn’t something serious, but the person in charge didn’t know what to do. My acquaintance thought that he could have done more to save the dog.
The story was a little longer than this. It seemed that it was a story already told several times.
I don’t remember the details of the story because I didn’t ask about the story itself. What I asked him was “how do you feel about it?”.
His face changed, his body changed. Nobody had asked him that. He hasn’t asked himself that either.
After a pause, he said “Oh! I haven’t think about it”. He sighed, and continued. “Bad, I feel bad. I could have saved it. I feel bad because I wasn’t there”. And he looked a little angry and sad.
He had the chance to recognize the emotions, listen to them, and share them with others.
