How To Develop A Non-Judgemental Attitude To Live More Peacefully

Prakhar Verma
The Startup
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5 min readSep 27, 2018

Look at the above picture.

What do you see?

You could see “a sad girl”, “a girl in a deep thought” or you could come to any other conclusion.

As humans, we want to close the gap of information.

Religious people conclude that there is a god. Atheists believe there is no god.

In reality, they both don’t know anything.

You can’t know what is unknown. It’s all a matter of belief.

It’s okay to not know. The above picture shows a girl in a car. That’s all.

Whatever else you conclude out of it is your opinion or belief. You could be 100% correct. But there’s a slight edge when you learn to develop your observational mind.

When you observe before you judge, you open yourself to possibilities. You acknowledge that your opinion is not a fact. It’s how you choose to see the world.

When You Point A Finger At Someone, There Are Three More Pointing Back At You

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung

When you judge someone, it affects you more than the other person. It says more about you than the other person. You convey how you perceive the world. It shows the pre-conceptions your mind has.

Instead of judgment, observe and be curious. Seek more information. Expand the gap between observation and conclusion.

We make snap decisions about people based on their looks, race, nationality, wealth, job, fame, and even small choices like choosing what to wear.

When you judge, ask yourself why you’re judging.

  • Is it because of a preconceived notion?
  • Is it because of my knowledge or experiences?
  • Is it because of my strong values?

Prakhar Verma
The Startup

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