How to Stop Needing Love
And why we lose our minds in pursuit of it
“No one should be deprived of love without the very best of reasons.” — Andreas Capellanus
Between the glamorization of romantic love from the media and the less than ideal love relationships we had with our caregivers as children, we’ve been set up.
We were destined to be lovesick puppies, either desperately searching for it or desperately avoiding it because we were hurt by it.
Nevertheless, the desire for a romantic relationship doesn’t seem to be waning anytime soon with these niche dating apps. Farmers, gluten-free people, you name it, there’s probably a dating app for you.
So with all this importance placed on love and romance, it is no wonder that people are willing to do whatever it takes for love and to also feel despondent when they don’t have it.
The book The Art of Courtly Love breaks down the origin of romance. Andreas Capellanus penned a wonderfully dreadful definition of love that many will relate to:
“Love is a certain inborn suffering derived from the sight of and excessive meditation upon the beauty of the opposite sex, which…
