How To Stop Projecting Your Insecurities Onto Others
Have you ever felt like everyone doesn’t like you? Or maybe people are all judging your style or whether or not you gained weight?
Perhaps you’ve found yourself judging someone based on their sexual endeavors. Or maybe you condemned someone for liking something you detest.
These are all common cases of projection. Projecting is when you believe something about the world and then start to see it in other people. It’s a typical situation for humans to see not only their beliefs but their insecurities in other people they encounter.
Instead of seeing everyone for who they are, we are only able to see them through the lens we’ve created for how we view the world.
That lens is constructed piece by piece throughout our lives, depending on our traumas, pains, achievements, and life events.
There’s no one to blame, especially not yourself, if you find yourself projecting your deepest fears or your strict standards onto other people. It’s natural. It’s part of being human.
But when our projections begin to interfere with our lives and relationships, it’s worth considering if they’re serving us in a useful way and to potentially work to get rid of some of them.
