I Decided Not to Write About My Mother’s Death on Social

How to Deal with Finality of Life in the Digital World

Ajay Sharma
Nov 23, 2019 · 5 min read
Picture — Edu Lauton (Unsplash)

Responding to Final Notices

In 2016, surfing through my Facebook wall one day, I found myself perplexed seeing a post announcing the sudden demise of a good friend of mine.

#RIP is Customary, Refrain from It

These questions are about social etiquettes more than your connection with the deceased person.

Acknowledge Loss, Don’t Ask ‘How’

Understandably, many of us find it hard to gather correct words and genuinely express them in such situations. Many of us like me say nothing because they worry about being wrong or hurting him/her unknowingly.

Unfollow or Block the Deceased

When someone dies, many people tag him/her (the deceased) in their posts. It will show up on the walls of the dead person’s friends. Family or friends of the deceased might find it disrespectful or an unnecessary reminder of the death.

Death Is Still A Challenge

Still, death is a private affair in many cultures. I’ve seen people who don’t want to discuss it in great detail. Talking about our immortality or confronting dying in any space is not welcomed.

Digital is Death Positive

When someone dies, feelings of loss, stuck, scare, and hurt take place. People look for comfort and support from others. Social media platforms provide an opportunity as grief outlets that allow them to express loss and sadness, where death doesn’t seem as brutal and final to them.

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