I Didn’t Realize I Could Be Happy Too

How to Create Your Own Happiness Each and Every Day

Aman
Aman
Jan 13, 2020 · 5 min read

I moved to a new city seven years ago and when I arrived I had a very clear goal for myself: to rebuild myself.

I spent the better part of five years working extremely hard, in many aspects of my life.

I never once checked in on myself to see if these goals were making me happy.

As the years ticked onwards I kept accomplishing more and more, all the while feeling more and more desolate.

I never gave myself a break.

I never sat down and made my mental health the first priority in my life.

It took me half a decade and a lot of self-sabotaging, ruts, and depressive episodes to realize that even though I was continually succeeding in life, I was not truly happy.

I made doing into something desirable, never realizing that all my accomplishments were not having the long term effect I thought they would.

I had hinged my entire identity on succeeding and had completely stopped asking myself if said achievements were bringing me joy.

When I finally started to make myself a priority, it felt completely unorthodox.

The road to self-love and true, daily, honest happiness was not pretty, but no road to greatness ever is.

It took a lot of time to realize that not everything I did had to be for a goal or some completion point. I realized doing things for joy was not just good enough, but the true source of life’s simple pleasures.

It took a lot of hard work to learn to be happy.

I did not think you could be successful and happy.

If there is anything I can teach someone else is to learn to love yourself and once you figure it out, never stop working on it because once you love yourself nothing that happens in the external world can impact your happiness.

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