As a deeply sensitive and empathic person, I’m often faced with moments of sheer suckery in this game of life. The world as it currently exists, hasn’t been created with us feeling intuitives in mind. As a result, we often feel as though we don’t really fit, or even belong in this world.
I’ve experienced my deepest failures in the world of working. Growing up in an entrepreneurial family brought with it a lot of pressure to strive and push, and I was often faced with moments where I didn’t feel as though I was good enough.
I’m a person who needs a lot of time and space for reflection — so much so that I really am not cut out for 40 hour work weeks, which automatically places me in the box of the lazy and undisciplined. I used to buy into this lie, not realizing that the standard of a 40 hour work week is a completely contrived and man-made construct. Who says we have to work 40 hours per week?
Of course, its a vast improvement to the way things were before Henry Ford implemented it as a means of establishing some “work/life balance.” Prior to this, we worked from sun up until sun down, taking a break only to sleep. In many parts of the world, this is still the status quo.
I look at failure in such a different way now. Failure, so much more than success, leads me ever deeper on the path of self-discovery. When I fail at aspects of life, I can see plainly that its time for me to stop, reflect, and plan a co-creative path to use the energy of the failure to propel me to success. This often means that I am required to create or adjust one of my life containers so that it fits me better.
My new baseline is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me, there can only be something wrong with the containers in my life or my attitude about the world — that’s it! Failure is the greatest teacher of all for my failures are a direct line to my success in life. They point the way for me to consciously create and craft a life on my terms.
What could it be like to create a life on your terms? To stop shaming and blaming your perceived weaknesses, and instead recognize the inherent power on the other side them? What if sucking at life as it currently exists is a rallying call for change, change in big ways? What if you showing up completely and unapologetically as yourself begins to shift reality as we know it?
Failure points the way to our success in all things. Failure, above all else, can put us on our rightful and purposeful path. Start with a new baseline of being whole and complete just as you are, and begin to question the fit of the containers in your life and not the other way around. This is an inside/out approach to living and winning at the game of life.