If You Don’t Know What You Want, This Is For You

Sah Kilic
The Startup
Published in
5 min readJun 21, 2018

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You’re in the middle of your journey. Whatever that may be, a career, school, parenthood, travel, business, a new goal, a new relationship. You’re amid dozens of journeys, it seems, yet you’re unsure about something. You’ve hit a dead-end; you’re in a pit of uncertainty, hell you don’t even think that this is the thing. The big thing. The thing you want.

A lot of the time, you feel like you’re just floating, trying to make sense of it all. It seems that you haven’t even begun your journey.

“I don’t know what I want to do.”

“I don’t know what I want for a career.”

“I don’t know if I want this person.”

“I don’t know what I want.” Period.

When you have an endless sea of decisions, a few things happen. You feel anxious, directionless, and feel an overwhelming sense of agitation and restlessness. Why? Because you know there is so much to do, so many possibilities, yet you do nothing or very little. But why?

Let’s be clear on this logic.

You try to optimize a decision so profoundly,

You try to think about every possible outcome,

You spend weeks, months, years thinking about the right choice,

Only to not make a decision and postpone your journey that little bit longer,

Because heavens forbid, it turns out to be the wrong decision.

You’ve heard time and time again that it’s ok to fail, yet you don’t seem to put it into action. It’s because you don’t know what you want, right?

Wrong, it’s because you want a lot of things, and you don’t like choosing.

Time spent doing one thing is taking away from potential time doing another thing that you might like better, right? You just want the best for you. I get it. We only have one life; we want to optimize this life, but let me rip off that band-aid. This is flawed logic and will only make you miserable after 5, 10, 20 years of waiting or deciding.

If you’re not busy doing, you’ll never figure it out.

Don’t treat your life like a formula you have to spend ten years writing, only to have maybe the next…

Sah Kilic
The Startup

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