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Is “Personality Porn” Replacing Real Relationships?

Simtimacy — The Understandable Allure of Addiction to YouTube Personalities Over Humans-in-the-Flesh

Grant H Brenner MD DFAPA
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6 min readMay 21, 2019

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Look in my eyes, what do you see?
The cult of personality
I know your anger, I know your dreams
I’ve been everything you want to be
I’m the cult of personality
Like Mussolini and Kennedy
I’m the cult of personality

-In Living Color, The Cult of Personality

Are one-sided, simulated relationships replacing real relationships, compensation for something not fully realized? More and more people seem to be trading relationships with real intimate others for interactions on social media. Is this necessarily a bad trend, or is it perhaps superior to dealing with messy, potentially risky traditional human relations?

Video-intensive platforms present us with a massively diverse array of YouTubers, officially called “Creators.” Created in whose image? It’s hard to tell fact from fiction, so real and engaging are these simulators of human experience for one able to become immersed in the fantasies they conjure up.

The trend is toward greater self-disclosure, and highly personal revelations are powerful in creating a sense of real connection with virtual partners. Similar to robotic partners

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Grant H Brenner MD DFAPA

Psychiatrist, Psychoanalyst, Entrepreneur, Writer, Speaker, Disaster Responder, Advocate, Photographer