Is the meaning of life discovered or created?

Aubrey Chayson
Aug 8, 2019 · 3 min read

Do people create for themselves what they ought to become?

What is life without meaning? Are we merely distracting ourselves from existential dread with all our busy activities? What is truly important? Why is it important? What is worth fighting for?

Everyone is highly individual; and everyone has different needs.

Some people are content to float. Others feel a need to command their destiny.

Many scientific studies prove that we gain happiness and a sense of self fulfilment when we better ourselves; and take action to be connected to and help the people around us. When we take action, we build an internal gage of satisfaction. Is all our conduct inherently selfish? Meaning is self-determined.

Is meaning found best, in activities that benefit others, the community, or the greater good? Each action has a consequence and each challenge has a reward. We can choose to imbue our actions with the meaning we choose.

Some rewards are clear and tangible. We may gain simple satisfaction in the physical confirmations of life. We may gain money, honour, power, prestige in reward of our hard works — it is like a pat on the back.

Everything we do is filtered by internal and external factors. Are we being fulfilled spiritually from the inside out? Are we giving and receiving enough love and care? Do we have a strong sense of purpose and drive? Are we strong enough to follow through on what we say?

Sometimes your purpose in life may be as simple as going from point A to point B. Sometimes you just need to climb that mountain, and overcome all the obstacles on the way to get there. Other times it is about the journey to get there.

Should we prioritise helping the people who surround us? Do we respect our deepest desires? Do we value achieving goals? Do we value our education? Do we choose to improve our health? Do we value creating emotional growth? Do we value building relationships? Is embracing the small moments and play the most important?

Life is like an ocean; with constant, captivating, curvaceous, crashing waves. As players of life, we are like surfers who are choosing which ride to wave. Life is all about balance, and we can only choose one wave at a time — to ride it well.

We must stop and rest along the way. We must study, learn, listen, talk — and be relentlessly passionate and earnest. Climbing a mountain is a feat in itself — however, how far will you have actually travelled?

Think big picture as well as small — think long term as well as short. If you were to tragically disappear tomorrow; would you be happy with the actions you took today? Are they a reflection of your true values and deepest desires in life?

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