Living to compete and compare.
Consciously and subconsciously, we compare ourselves to those around us, every single day. Similarly, we compete to be better than them in every way physically and mentally possible.
It’s difficult to be completely happy within our bodies and our minds, when others always seem to be ‘better’ than us. The need to be seen as the best, is an unhealthy addiction that we’ve all been addicted to.
Whether male or female, we aim to have the ‘picture perfect’ Instagram body that we see whenever we’re scrolling through our phones. It may be the girl with the clear skin and the long hair, or the guy with the muscly arms and the icy blue eyes; we envy them.
When in reality, we should be thankful for every day that our body is allowing us to be alive. Regardless of if we hate our acne and belly rolls, we are being blessed with the chance to get out of bed every morning.
Because there’s some people who don’t have that chance.
We drive a car that’s older than us and in turn, we believe we’re of a lower class than those who drive a car that’s new.
In hindsight, we should be grateful that we have transportation to get us from point A, to point B. Even if our car isn’t brand new and luxurious, we’re lucky that we don’t need to walk to our destinations at 4am in the morning.
Because some people have to.
We are told of someone else’s triumphs, and our reaction is to tell them of the time that we achieved more. That’s not to say that we aren’t proud of those around us, but it does demonstrate that we want to believe we’re more successful. We hear that they’re achieving their goals, and we want to make ourselves feel better about the fact that we haven’t yet reached ours.
We’re told of someone’s sadness, and we insist on mentioning something similar – but a little bit worse – that happened to us. Not because we’re selfish and lack empathy, but because we want to reassure ourselves that we have a right to be unhappy.
Why do we always compete and compare ourselves to others?
Why do we believe that we’re not good enough, because we don’t look like photoshopped models in magazines?
Why do we believe that we aren’t successful, because we don’t have a million dollars in our bank account?
Why do we compare our happiness to the happiness of others?
Why do we compare our sadness to the sadness of others?
Life isn’t a competition, it never has been and it never will be.
There’s no schedule to life.
You don’t need to be the first person to have a million dollars in your bank account. You don’t need to have clear skin by tomorrow. You don’t need to have it ‘better’ than those around you.
If you compare yourself to others, someone will ALWAYS have it ‘better’. Someone will always BE ‘better’. You will NEVER be satisfied or content with your achievements if you CONSISTENTLY wonder if you’re more successful than the person sitting next to you, if you’re more attractive than the person sitting next to you.
Comparing and competing, THAT’S what makes you feel as if you don’t have enough. That’s what makes you feel as if you’re not enough. Because without the apparent success of others, you would NEVER consider yourself a failure. If you didn’t see those around you as having more than you, you’d NEVER feel like you have nothing.
STOP comparing.
STOP competing.
You are not in a competitive race. You’re on an individual journey. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
Xo,
Kiarna.
