Feed your faith and know you belong.
We know that fear and faith can’t coexist. You choose which one to feed every day. You determine what you believe about yourself. We can’t control every negative thought that enters our mind. It’s up to us recognizing them and responding with force to put them in their place.
Most creatives and entrepreneurs have suffered from imposter syndrome. At the start, we question if we have the ability and talent to succeed. We ask who we are that people should listen to what we have to say or buy our product. Am I good enough? Do I deserve success? Can I reach my dreams? Am I a fraud?
These thoughts hold us back or stop us before we start. What would the world be like if everyone believed their doubts? Our society would not have the wealth, opportunity or technology we enjoy. We must learn to ignore internal and external negative voices. Those who do are the creators and difference makers.
Everyone starts their dream in the same place. We have opportunity to design our lives and make a difference. Some may face a tougher road than others but we all have a choice of what we become. The harder the challenge makes the victory sweeter.
What would the world be like if everyone believed their doubts?
We all have different gifts, talents and skills. They may not always be obvious. It’s up to us to put in the work to discover them. Our negative traits are easier to recognize. We give them more credit than they deserve. Your mindset can lead you to believe you don’t have any special abilities to cultivate.
It’s easier to think negative than positive about yourself. It can take an effort to bring forward and believe positive thoughts. People can list their faults quicker than virtues.
I believed my doubts most of my life. I was hesitant to take risks that could improve my life. My feelings of needing certainty held me back. Thoughts of not being good enough, being a failure or exposed as a fraud dominated my thinking. You are not alone if you think this way.
The dream of making a better life for my family not in a traditional job setting is still there. I have no desire to work in a cubicle for 40+ hours a week for someone else’s goals. There are more important people in my life who deserve my best hours of the day.
My previous attempts reaching financial independence in direct sales have failed so far. It was up to me to find another way to reach those goals. Going back to school and incurring debt wasn’t an option. I’ve seen plenty of people without advanced degrees gain significance and wealth.
Our negative traits are easier to recognize. We give them more credit than they deserve.
I had a desire to write about 15 years ago. My thoughts were no one would want to read what I write outside my family. I fed myself the lie that I could never make it big like the journalists and commentators on television. This was full blown imposter syndrome. Anxiety and depression helped make it worse.
Valerie Young, who is an expert on this topic, wrote The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women. A Time Magazine article lists five significant patterns of belief for imposter syndrome. There are perfectionists that can’t make a mistake. Experts seek external validation to prove their knowledge. Natural geniuses feel they aren’t good enough if they need to put in a lot of effort to learn. Soloists never ask for help and think they always can do it on their own. Supermen/superwomen push themselves their hardest all the time.
I would add waiting for ideal conditions to pursue your dream. People make excuses the time isn’t right to start. The time will never be right to start. You may have an empty nest, but health problems arise. I’ll start when I have all the knowledge to succeed. I don’t have the right connections to get started.
Stop making weak excuses for never starting your business. I decided to start writing on Medium in April without any experience or clue how to write on here.
The time will never be right to start.
I did some research on the platform but started right after that. I decided not to care what other people thought about my writing. If I made a big mess, then so what? Successful people stand on top of more failures than you. They fought through their negative beliefs, doubts and fears. You separate yourself from the pack by starting.
You feel like a weight is off your shoulders when you get started pursuing your dreams. It becomes more exciting to get out of bed every day knowing you have a defined goal to pursue. You don’t have a passion, but purpose which is more powerful.
Successful people stand on top of more failures than you.
Deciding to write to work towards my dreams is one of the best decisions I ever made. It gives me a way to make tangible progress every day. It takes a long time to build a successful platform or business. Do something every day to build towards success and belief in yourself.
Everyone has goals and dreams they want to reach. We can all feel like imposters and feed our fears. You are in charge to feed your faith and believe you belong. Doubts will always creep in, but we have a choice not to listen. Stop watching other people succeed and get in the game! You will feel like the badass you are when you do.