When was the last time you put your middle finger in the air and said screw it? I thought about doing it many times but never did.
Why? Because I’m a wimp.
So many of us are obsessed with what other people think of us and our actions, even our haters.
We’re obsessed because we want to be accepted and included. Most of the time, the obsession of wanting to be accepted comes at a price.
A price we really shouldn’t pay; usually that price comes in the form of sacrificing our happiness.
The circle or group you’re trying to be accepted in might not be too supportive of your goals.
Why is that? Because it’s not their goals and it’s not something they’re interested in doing.
Now ask yourself, is being accepted in a group that doesn’t support your happiness worth it? I don’t think it’s worth it at all.
Why would anyone want to be part of a group, community, a circle of friends, or colleagues that don’t support you or try to encourage you to reach your goals?
People who don’t support us -the haters- don’t like to see us succeed in anything. Even if it’s in something, they have no desire to do.
The reason they don’t want to see us achieve our goals is that we’re becoming successful and they’re not.
To make us not successful, they’ll tear us down and tell us we wouldn’t do a good job or make it in that line of work.
They won’t support our goals or achievements because they want to be the ones being successful in life and have everyone else in the group look up to them and think they’re a magical unicorn that is better than everyone.
If they spent the same amount of time, they spend tearing us down; they could already be very successful in work and life. Funny how that is.
If there’s something that you want to do and it makes you very happy, then by golly go do it!
Go out and be a successful magical unicorn. Don’t let anyone stand in your way to greatness.
You won’t get far in life when you surround yourself with people who do nothing but tear you down and won’t support you.
Do what make you happy and screw the haters.
Cut ties with anyone who won’t support your happiness.
If that happens to be a family member, distance yourself as much as you can but make sure it doesn’t come off as if you’re trying to alienate them.
If it’s a brother or a sister, even a parent, don’t be so open about your projects and goals.
They may be your parent, sister, brother; they’re still not going to give you their blessing for making your dreams come true when they don’t agree with it.
It sucks, but it’s true.
“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.” — Serena Williams
You might start to feel guilty by not sharing your success stories with your family, but don’t give in.
And, do not let them guilt you into feeling like you’re a terrible or snooty family member because you’re keeping your goals and success stories to yourself.
If you want to focus on your mental health by putting up boundaries so the haters can’t tear you apart, go for it.
You need to take care of yourself, psychically, and emotionally.
Let your haters be your motivators.
Do you know what a great feeling is?
Proving the group of nonbelievers wrong, remember they don’t want you to succeed.
And when you do, it puts a sour taste in their mouth that they can’t rinse out.
Let your haters be your motivators and do what makes you happy.
If someone shoots out their unwanted opinion and says, you can’t accomplish something, smile to their face and prove them wrong behind their back.
It’s time to stop worrying about what other people think of us and our actions, and it’s time to start doing what makes us happy.
The people who support us and encourage us to keep going, and who loves to see us succeed are the people we want in our life.
Not the group of people who mock us for even thinking we have a chance. We’re taking a risk and going after what we want, and they hate that.