Take Time To Be Still
Actually take a break over the holiday break
This is the in-between time.
We’re in limbo between Christmas and New Year’s whether we celebrate or not. If you don’t take time off, you are at work getting nothing done. You’re scrolling through social media and pretending to work. You’re napping with your eyes open.
It’s the last lazy time of the year before we reset and do it all over again.
I’m a huge advocate for doing nothing. Wearing pajamas all day and eating cake for breakfast. Lying in bed reading, covered with a blanket of cats and dogs. Ignoring the dishes in the sink. Taking a break from reading the news.
It’s important to take some time off from being busy. So many of us struggle just to be still for awhile.
In yoga, I always find the hardest pose the corpse pose, shavasana. To lie still without fidgeting and to quiet my mind is onerous at first. But when the quiet and the stillness comes…it’s transformative. I feel calm and refreshed.
Aren’t we better in our lives when we take some time to reset and refresh? We are better partners and parents and employees when we’ve had a chance to rest after the madness and stress of the holidays.
When we slow down and look around, we get a chance to reconnect with our partners, our friends, our kids.
Play with your kids. Turn the tv off and put down the tablets and go outside and play. If the weather has other ideas, play board games or puzzles or build a fort out of the couch cushions and have a camp-out inside.
Make time for your partner. Express gratitude — make this your New Year’s resolution. Regularly thanking one another, even for little things, will be life-changing. I once had a hotel shuttle driver that told me he and his wife make it a contest to do things for one another and to always appreciate one another. He didn’t do that in his first marriage and he ended up divorced. He made it his mission to do better.
Visit with your elderly relatives or at least give them a call. There is nothing your grandma wants more than to hear your voice or to see your face. I know she tells the same stories over and over but I promise you, you’ll miss her when she’s gone. I don’t have any grandparents left alive but I remember them often. I make my Mamaw’s pumpkin pound cake and my Grandma’s refrigerator cookies for the holidays to keep them alive in our hearts and our tummies.
And, if you are an introvert like me, spend some time by yourself. Take walks in the park with your dog or sit by the window with your cat while he talks to the birds. Lay on the floor and stare at the ceiling like you did when you were a teenager. Pretend to read in a coffee shop while you secretly eavesdrop and people-watch.
Be kind to yourself on New Year’s Eve and kind to others. Start the new year ready and refreshed for new adventures.
Cheyenne is a writer, creative consultant and soon to be expat. Find her on Facebook at Shy Horn Writes or on Twitter @shyhorncreative.