Why are you carrying all that baggage?
What would change if we were as intentional about our emotions as we are about packing our suitcase?
Every time we prepare to board a plane we are faced with a dilemma? What do we need to pack?
It requires intentionality because there’s a scarcity of space, so we can only take those things that are going to help us on our journey.
For some it means filling our bags to the brim, for others it’s about leaving plenty of room for those treasures and trinkets we might pick up along the way.
For all of us, the mindset is simple. Only pack what we need, because anything extra adds to the burden and will come at a cost.
As I considered this I realised what a powerful metaphor this is for our lives. I wondered what would change if we took this intentional approach to the baggage we carry with us every day.
So I ask you:
When you wake each morning, who determines what you will carry with you for that day?
Is it you?
If it is, why do we so often carry that burden of a mistake we made in the past, or hold onto that grudge, that jealousy, that tension which has consumed us for so long.
How have these items ever helped us, or is it simply that they have been with us for so long that we no longer considered the possibility that we can let them go and create space for something new?
Are you choosing what you pack, or is someone else telling you what you have to carry?
The shame of a failed venture, a broken relationship, a misguided mistake, a fear that you’re not ready? How long do we need to hold onto these and how do they impact the posture we take into day?
So often it is others trying to force us to carry these burdens, because they’ve been unable to leave these behind themselves and want us to experience their struggle.
But how does this help either of us progress when neither of us are now able to help the other lighten their load?
We are filled with a world where success feels so fleeting, and failure feels forever, and are surrounded by a society determined to ensure we never leave these tags behind.
But what if we did?
What if instead of holding onto past successes, desperate to ensure we didn’t lose them and others didn’t forget them, if instead we focused on how we can lift others up, lightening their load without fear of reciprocity, so that together we can achieve more.
Conversely, what if we saw someone struggling, crippled by the weight of shame or stress and gave them permission to leave that behind and stand tall, because the world awaits their wonder. What if that person was us, how would that change how we approached tomorrow?
Stop letting someone else determine what baggage you carry. Negative baggage is a burden, and those telling you to carry it only want to hold you down and hold you back.
A world of possibilities.
What you’ll discover is a world of possibilities. A world full of treasures and trinkets, that can only be discovered when we can create the space to love, learn, and help others.
When we are intentional about creating this room, we discover how truly powerful these experiences can be, and how important they are for us to bring on this incredible journey.
So the question I leave you with.