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With Respect for Imperfect Girls Make Perfect Role Models … Important New Book for Teen Girls

“But a role-model makeover with some breadth and depth, story and struggle, will allow girls to find not only inspiration but also enough space and comfort to find themselves.”

Annemarie Berukoff
The Startup
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4 min readFeb 26, 2021

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Take it or leave it … my teacher’s opinion. I’m furious about what is happening to our teenage girls and the “rampant perfectionism” imposed by social media. Finally, there are new stories about real girls around the world who pursue their passions and build their self-confidence and success along the way. How wonderful for all teen girls to have this opportunity to see them as role-models!

There is no other demographic other than teen girls of whom so much disadvantage is taken in our social media culture. Such unrealistic expectations, more vulnerability, less rebuttal, limited voices on media; just more escalating research about high rates of depression, anxiety and acting out to fit into adult standards and hyperbole. At 15, they are not suitable guests on talk shows to explain how their adolescent brains do not mature with logical deductive thinking skills until ages 21 or so. There is nothing news-worthy about managing their developing brains subjected to physical and emotional changes, peer pressure, socialization, and growing independence. However, from their early vantage, how can they explain that an entire generation is falling apart because of constant need for perfection and instant gratification?

When I was a teenager the only mirror that saw my face hung in our bathroom and my real friends were neighbors who liked my responsibilities and efforts and it didn’t matter how I looked. Now the social media Selfie mirrors expose the innocence and curiosity of youth to unfiltered, unattainable standards to be happy in a perfect life or suffer hopelessness, self-doubt, lack of self-motivation and self-esteem or self-confidence.

Following the media mentality, they don’t complain in compliance. Nobody hears their sorrows in media and nobody except psychologists seem to question how abnormal this rite of passage is or offer solutions, until now …

It is with greatest hope and

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Annemarie Berukoff
The Startup

Retired teacher — Affiliate Marketer, Big Picture Wisdom, author 4 e-books: social media teens, eco-fiction ecology https://helpfulmindstreamforchanges.com