“ I don’t want to mess up my daughter the way my mom messed me up.” — “I want to be a better mother than the one I had.” “I just want her to feel good about herself. “ Yep, EVERY mother on my psychotherapy couch who has a difficult mother and is now raising a daughter has the worry she will make the same mistakes her mother made and leave her daughter feeling anxious and insecure. If you are one of those mothers I have good news for you- read on.