Existence

Cradling my 3 month stress created pregnancy belly. There is no new life inside of here — just cheeseburgers. It is 3 in the morning and I am cradling my belly looking at myself in the dark, in the mirror, still afraid of the light. Looking directly at my own…

I was raised by the infamous motto, “bermimpilah setinggi langit”, which in Indonesian literally meaning “to dream as high as the sky”. That specific phrase definitely shaped my personality, my vision, and how I made my (most) decisions. I even wrote “A Dreamer” next to a “who am I?” question…

Question from the Internet: “Does helping in most cases cause harm to the object of help because it prevents them from learning to cope with the problem by themselves, makes them dependent, and/or makes them feel obliged?” This depends on how we “help”, and it very much depends on the…

What’s the purpose of life? Why is life so difficult? Is there a rhyme and reason to existence? — Yes, there is a rhyme and reason to existence, and before I get started on my best guess, I want to acknowledge yours. Life is what you make it. We all have a different mission, and we are all unique. …

I can honestly say, the best advice I ever got — ALWAYS at the exact right time — came from my father. When I was being especially foolish and self-destructive, he’d pull me in close enough to smell his nasty coffee breath, he’d look me dead in the eye and…