Holding Space

A few weeks back I found out some really exciting news for my life. I had finally achieved a big life goal and was in the midst of massive transformation. At first I was overjoyed and was internally celebrating, dreaming, and started sharing with those close to me in my…

So, you have this fear you’ll be alone forever, do you? Do you have any idea where this has stemmed from? Has it become a self-fulfilling prophecy? Drawn again and again to the same types of people. Proving yourself right each time it goes wrong. “See I told you, you’ll…

“The intention is not to move the ball, rather to move the opposition.” Pep Guardiola. Holding space is the result of good coaching. Players trust the coach enough to stay put despite what appears to be unfolding in front of them. And they trust each other to stay put because each knows what the other needs. The space a youth coach holds for her players is less technical but no less important. Because in that space, is the collective doubt that it is not working. A collective of parents, kids, and the coach themselves.

A lot has happened in 2022, I am not going to list it all because that seems counterproductive, a plea for sympathy, and also because I really do not want to have a list of all the shit that has gone down since January 1, 2022. But my mind is…

I woke up today thinking about kindness. I recently got a haircut that in popular culture one would describe or depict as edgy. It’s got some shaved sides, some asymmetry. Is asymmetry edgy? Maybe. What does edgy even mean? Edgy feels sharp, the corners and edges of a table are…

My holding space journey with Heather Plett began like many others: reading that viral blog post! I had several friends who had read it and said, you would love this — they were NOT wrong. In her article she explored the ideas of holding space through the experience of her…

There are moments in time when I wonder what is the reason why? Why is this the season of hardships and hungry ghosts? What is there to learn when so many of us are tapped out. Or So We Think. What if this is the season where we surrender? Instead…

stop making yourself a receptacle holding the pain of others yet not holding space for yourself you deserve to be tenderly held your heart hurts too your pain doesn’t have to be validated, understood or even quantified for it to be real stop convincing yourself you can become whole being held in the wrong hands… -ari.