I disagree — going down with the ship is stupid.

What you want to do is make it clear that the ship is heading for the rocks. Tell your employees as soon as you can see that there is trouble ahead, show them what you, and they, can do to avoid the rocks, and give them the opportunity to bail if they want to.

I’ve been following your post and the insane responses for a few days and now I feel doubly annoyed on your behalf.

My drafts folder is full of half-written responses to the comments by medium readers who seemed to just not get your piece or who totally missed the point. I didn’t post these responses because they were harsh…

Female Culture Doesn’t Speak Honesty

Kel, you are so on point with the style guide thing. Honestly though, I think honesty just isn’t really an integral part of female culture. So often, we are operating in ways to protect and deflect. Female solidarity is just another part of that: protect each other…

I know I wouldn’t be horrified by you. I am not a better person than you. There is no comparison. I have these (in my opinion) exalted beliefs, but I am not my beliefs, though I wish I was. My beliefs are who I want to be. I have made mistakes. I have sworn before though not often. I have lied. In Mexico, I likely taught murderers (I had suspicions…

On Incompleteness in Absence

We scrupulously write out our lives in numerous leather-bound volumes. Tomes filled with what we believe to be our worth and essence. We share a chapter here and there, believing that it is the thing that makes us interesting. The thing that keeps THEM coming back for more.