Life Lessons

Don’t be overheard complaining…not even to yourself. — Marcus Aurelius So simple, yet so powerful. You’ve probably heard of Marcus Aurelius, the most well-known stoic philosopher. You’ve probably even heard this quote before. And if you’re anything like me, you didn’t think deeply enough about this quote. I thought this…

Someone has to tell it like it is. Might as well be me. — Lately, I’ve been noticing a trend among my friends — specifically, my friends in the upper-middle-class area I live in. We all sit down, we have some tea, and we kvetch. Almost without fail, one of my single friends will ask me, “Do you think I’m going to meet my…

The history and science of physical attraction. — He is called, “The World’s Most Handsome Gorilla”. And each morning, lines form outside of the Higashiyama Zoo in Nagoya, Japan. And just minutes after opening, you’ll see crowds flowing past the bad-mannered chimps, past the boring flamingos, and stopping to gather around the gorilla exhibit. His name is Shabani…

Not as complicated as you think. — Just the other day, my original blog celebrated its 10th birthday. When I first began writing, my mission was to help men develop a greater understanding of women, and of themselves. To show up better in their relationships. To put more effort into romance, communication, and to build stronger internal…

Imagine asking for permission for the rest of your life. That’s what average buys you. — Being successful was cool up to about 2019. Then a trend emerged online that rebelled against the idea of being extraordinary, and finding your version of success. I’m not going to link to the content because I don’t want to start World War 3. But we’ve all seen the success-hater…

The secret to overcoming all insecurity lies in your identity — From the outside, I had a fantastic childhood. Dad had a great job that afforded us all the shiny toys, and mom cooked delicious gourmet meals every day. …

The spiral of childhood invalidation into our adult lives. — Our primary caregivers are the first people we associate with the word ‘love’ as infants. They are the first voices we hear, and their words and actions deeply resonate with how we see ourselves and how we learn to interact with the world. In a safe and predictable world, our…

Native American wisdom to make it big in life. — There is an old Navajo tribal saying that changed my life entirely at a time when I was paralyzed by fear and doubt. The saying is short and straightforward but is of unfathomable mystical and spiritual depth. It goes like this, “Jump, and the floor will appear.” Jump, and the floor will appear. It sounds easy…

Some ‘players’ are naturals. Others had to learn how to attract women. Count me in the second category. I spent years approaching women, trying various moves and learning from my mistakes. The lessons from this journey extend way beyond seduction. Here are 8 important lessons I learned about human psychology…