There’s a lyric in the moving Lee Ann Womack song I Hope You Dance that states the following:
In the post What to do when you’re stuck in a rut, I wrote about how the difference…
‘The conscious mind may be compared to a fountain playing in the sun and falling back into the…
Enter the year 2003.
I was 25 years old, married and living in a small town called Rajkot in western India…
It was the last day of school on a morning that began with horrific news of a tragic event that…
A book about learning to deal with people. It offers concrete advice on how to be honest yet diplomatic in one’s interactions.
I realise that’s quite a bold claim — but here’s the thing, I can state it by virtue of the fact that we are human and because there are some pretty basic truths about being human that are true for us all. So when it comes to what I call the ‘spice…
When I ask why we’re having a conversation, there’s a litany of reasons you’ve…
What all Schools/Colleges should teach:
I know, it’s literally just now December, but sometimes I get ahead of myself. (Like how right now I’m…
“Why would you be…
Arrêtez de parler de votre idée, mettez-la en place.
Parce que si vous ne faites rien et que l’idée et vraiment bonne, quelqu’un le fera à votre place, plus rapidement et peut-être bien mieux que vous et votre imagination.
23 on my right leg.20 on my left.43 scars in total.
This past summer I was having a nice conversation with a gentleman who owns a medium…
Often I refer to our society and culture today as a drive-thru one. Everything we want, need, or can have is immediately at our fingertips and we expect it that way. We expect things to be quick and handed to us with little to no effort — much like a drive-thru. Then there are…
Elle, this is a great quote!
“If you aren’t in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?”- T.S. Eliot
I went to the bookstore today and bought a book. It was the Spring 2017 Collection of…
Awesome post, Niklas!
I’d say that my personal villain moments happen when I begin feeling restricted in any way. Like I’ve to blend in.
I’ve never been in the comparing game, and by default I don’t care who’s doing what and don’t point it out either to others or to myself.
You know that old saying, “Hope for the best, but plan for the worst?” I completely disagree. I say, “Hope…
“Hey, are you not feeling this or what?”
“Hey, are you okay?”
“Am I ever going to see you again?”
For some reason, this particular girl and this sequence of texts have left an indelible mark on my…
Nicolas, Great thoughts! “Success, and the constant conquest of, is a paradox.
The bigger you get, the harder you need to work on remaining small”.
I believe that has to be seen for a human being to realize these words of yours
This reminds me of how Jeff Bezos quit his safe Wall Street software development job and started Amazon. He wanted to minimize his regrets at the end of his life.
Stop talking about your idea, put it in place.
Because if you don’t do anything and the idea and really good, someone will do it for you, faster and perhaps much better than you and your imagination.
“There’s a secret that real writers know that wannabe writers don’t, and the secret is this: It’s not the writing part…
I don’t write for you. Although I think about you, I write for myself.
I write daily. At least one page every morning before anybody else wakes up. It makes 365 pages a year. But why would…
What to do when you’re feeling paralyzed
Dear you,
Thanks for joining me again. In the previous letter, we discussed how It does not matter how much you earn, but how much you save. In case you missed it or need a recap, you can read it here —…
Why wildness is central to your authentic self.
Every time I publish a story on Medium, I have the IFTTT (If this, then that) app run.
It has made my life easier by executing three actions when I share a Medium story:
Why tension is keeping you from standing in your strength
Today I woke up with a forgiving heart.
Just recently I read a book about why people waste their time and tend to procrastinate all the time.
Back a few years ago I tend to waste a lot of my time and energy on things and tasks that didn’t bring me a step…
I’ve heard Jeff Goins say it time and time again…Practice in Public!
Niklas, what a awesome read! Love this, Harajuku Moment. Coined by Chad Fowler, Tim Ferriss defined it in The 4-Hour Body:
“It’s an epiphany that turns a nice-to-have into a must-have. There is no point in getting started until it happens. No matter how many bullet points and recipes I provide, you will need a Harajuku…
Hi Karen. I enjoyed your practical well-written piece on parenting and the reminder that there is no such thing as perfection. I’m an emotion-centered experiential psychotherapist from NYC. I work only with adults. But we often visit child parts in their memories to heal old wounds that largely had to do with not being seen and tended to emotionally…
Gustavo, love the wisdom!
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
Jeff, Love this, “We’re stuck inside, watching others participate in the game but never taking the bold move to join in. We’re hoping someone invites us in, hoping we don’t have to do the messy work of asking or simply showing up”.
To summarize how Brene Brown sees it, “If courage is a value you hold, you must show up and be…
Teach your kids to be vulnerable. Model it first.
Standing up for yourself is a big deal. I never learned how to do it without being angry, yet I have always believed in it. Learning how to be vulnerable is key. First with yourself and then with others.
Arvin! Thank you so much for the kind words. I’m glad my story resonated with you.
Restarting is never easy. Like most things in life, you never really know how things could work out until they do.
I hope you have a great time. I don’t think there exists such a thing as failure, unless there is…
Here comes the last month of the year. The best thing about this year is I am still setting goals and working towards them. That is the best thing about monthly resolutions. If not for this, I would have long been lost in the journey and would not have reached even a…
If you know me, you know that I’m a really introspective person. I relish deep conversation and thrive off of challenging dialect that tests my perception. I am approaching my mid 20’s and can’t tell you enough about the importance of self-growth, and self-evaluation, especially during this age…
James, this is heavy stuff, “I felt like the worst fraud. I felt like my life was over. I felt like my kids would be better off if I were dead. I couldn’t stop crying.
“It’s ok,” he said. “Things are going to get better.”
And he was right. They did”.
LIFE JOURNEY : From Tar-pits to Mountain Peaks
The moments of “Hallelujah” to “”Why do I even bother living”. We all share in this natural rhythm of…
What kind of life or lifestyle will help me feel free?
Glad I could inspire! Keep on keeping on!
Coming from the Midwest, an unknown school, and only blue-collar connections to start my career, I was…
In my blog Why you set yourself demotivating conditions I focused on how easy it is to fool yourself into believing your brain works against you because of its negative bias.
Tom, I always buy journals from Barnes and Nobel (they have the best!) But I never planned it out like you say, “After your first month, look back on your entries. What themes keep coming up over and over again? Do this again after every month, and you’ll be MUCH more self-aware about what you want in life.
Truth, “The university is a place where people find it normal to be unhealthy. The feeling of incapability causes problems, and the teachers ignore and neglect the human part of the students”.
The students subject themselves because they see no other choice.
Haha Carol. I just read this from Steven Pressfield “We don’t tell ourselves, `I’m never going to write my symphony.´ Instead we say, `I am going to write my symphony; I’m just going to start tomorrow.´”
Extremism is on the rise, because only extreme ideas cut through the noise of the Internet. Common sense wisdom…
I played soccer yesterday.
The number of goals I scored: 0
While playing as the goalkeeper, I let the opposite team score 4 times.
Great advice Meg Konovska illustrated well with your words.
It’s so true about repeating the lesson until we learn it. We can have two attitudes toward that. One attitude of: noooooo with internal rebellion wanting to just progress without understanding; and the other with: yes! I need to go over that again I still don’t get…
Whatever you need to get that extra ‘meaningful’ mileage on your relationship meter, do it.
“Such little moments of affection are the cornerstones of any relationship. They are the hidden gems that bring two souls together and cements a life-long bond”.
wellness
Knock out the important emails and calls before you get out of bed
Honestly, it would not occur to talk on the phone or answer emails in bed. I am in general a pretty productive, and efficient person, but I have to wake up first.
Kris, love this! Rather than yielding to worry… or giving in to anxiety… or distracting ourselves… or pushing everything away… the solution is in acknowledging these feelings, gently; honestly. And making peace with them.
Human beings live with this resistance like a storm cloud over them.
“Work on three solid pillars for the foundation of your routine. Select no more than three actions at a time. A divided house will fall.” — Roy Huff
You said it yourself, we over-complicate our lives by trying to do too much at once. Sometimes we just need to understand that things take time. I really want to start working…
John, yes, more of this in the world, “But we need to support each other with opportunities, feedback, and learning opportunities. We’re a diverse lot! Let’s capitalize on the bundle of contradictions”!
Rosemary, this is great! “Fight mostly yourself, your fears, your self-doubt…
And stay the course”.
Defining the Problem
Living the cube life can be boring and monotonous. The days turn into months and into years and you wake up one day to it and you ask yourself the same question you ask yourself the same question you ask yourself all the time. Am I doing what I am supposed to be doing? And maybe you go to some fancy…
So what’s the solution? “Their habits begin to wither. They start choosing what’s easy instead of what’s going to help them grow”.
Get some hard core values and create a vision they are willing to work for!
“My thoughts” on personal branding which is so evident in an organization. Most of the times after a few interactions, the person gets branded into one of the categories (aggressive, adamant, soft natured, hard working, intelligent /smart, lazy etc…… and many more…
I wonder what the world would be if students in high school were shown to cultivate their life like this, “I invest heavily in spending time with people ten, twenty, thirty years older than me, picking their brain, having coffee with them, doing anything I can to continue learning and investing in myself”.
Begin by shopping along with your dating solution gay buddy. He is able to let you know what designs come in fashion because he checks out all ladies' publications, style mags, and celebrity fashion news, therefore he understands that which you could possibly get away with…
Living the cube life can be boring and monotonous. The days turn into months and into years and you wake up one day to it and you ask yourself the same question you ask yourself the same question you ask yourself all the time. Am I doing what I…
