That’s totally fair. Alcohol was a part of the trauma, but my main objective was just to share my story. Perhaps another piece could be written about that at a later time — Right now I am more concerned about preserving the narrative of rape and sexual assault in general, alcohol involved or not.
Thank you, Trevor.
And to answer your original question, yes, I do believe that is what he is insinuating. Don’t let him convince you that that wasn’t his intent, once he is backed into a corner…
There was a really interesting series on Jezebel from last year called “Ask a Former Drunk”. The author is Sarah Hepola and she wrote “Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget”.
What really struck me was something she wrote in this entry of Ask a Former Drunk: When Do You Know You Have A Problem?:
No, they are not minor. And they’re not over when they’re done. These are the constant assaults that women face every time they step into the world, that fix themselves in our very existence, and this is #notokay.
TeriJo, Meg, H. Nemesis Nyx, Alexainie, Fierce Force 💃🏼, Jess Schwendinger, marika bianca, Sherry Kappel, this story may interest you.
People have heard individual stories of sexual abuse from someone in their lives and read criminal cases. But, because these stories are so personal, so UNTOLD outside a small circle, or told to no one at all, people assume they are aberrations, unusual, bad luck.