Relationships

Letter to my brothers I have two younger brothers. And to them I say — I am forever your big sister. No matter how old you get, you are forever my baby brothers. We may not have been the best siblings growing up. I might have been (or certainly was!)…

Yeah, I know everybody is going to have feelings about this, but this is my page and I can say whatever I want (within legally and culturally actionable parameters, of course). After my divorce, it took me a really long time to stop saying “my husband”. If you’re married, you…

#2: They’re willing to be vulnerable — What makes someone emotionally stable? Of course, we all experience the occasional mood swing from time to time. But some people seem to respond to the ups and downs of bad moods and painful emotions with far more confidence and resilience. Over the years working as a psychologist, I’ve noticed…

I, myself, am a living, struggling, persevering monument My parents told their children not to buy them graves. “Don’t pay for a place to go and be sad,” my mother sanctioned. Ironic. Even in death, my mother feared emotion. In her eyes, emotion came and control was gone. Still, from…

Growing up, I remember performing dances (I was doing ballet at some point) at weddings, or attending ceremonies of my parents’ friends’ children who are way older than me, flying to Bali for my older cousin’s wedding, to receiving a wedding invitation from a former coworker, and giving a little…

I was responsible for another person’s life — My cousin called me and told me that her husband was sick and needed surgery but she wasn’t sure what to do. He was admitted to a hospital and she needed help. I asked her what kind of help did she need? She wanted someone to be with her to…