Shame

How to manage shame so it doesn’t corrupt your behavior or relationships. George, the head of the history department, wondered what could be done for his colleague, Peter, an assistant professor. He harshly criticized himself every time there was the slightest problem with teaching. …

The damage of toxic shame — Shame is an emotion everyone feels sometime in their lives. This intense feeling can be used for good, warning us that our behavior is causing problems for ourselves and others. …

Vanquish this soul-eating emotion out of your life for good. Carl Jung, one of the most influential psychiatrists ever, once declared, “Shame is a soul-eating emotion.” And he was right. If we examine the catalyst of our destructive feelings, we will quickly learn the causes are often rooted in shame. …

Two of our most unacknowledged internal forces and the beginning place for deep healing — I know that the topics of my posts have been a bit heavy, yet from the onset I wanted to be honest about what has been real for me most of my life. It is about bringing to the surface and to the Light what has been lurking in my…

On the discussion of fear — Do you fear failure? I certainly do. When I was a kid I didn’t dream much — at all. I didn’t have time to dream. I merely survived. Today, I actually live, makes mistakes, and dream. Dreaming of what might be brings a risk that I might fail. If I stay put and don’t try anything new, I most likely won’t fail. I’ll be stagnate but maybe that’s better than failing? Is it really better?

Why Are Women Ashamed, Instead of Our Perpetrators And Their Enablers? — “When it’s “he said/she said,” the woman can’t win. But when it’s “he said/she said/she said/she said/she said/she said,” transparency has a chance, and light can flood the places where abusive behavior thrives.” ― Melinda Gates Last month, I watched the movie “She Said” It bothered me for weeks. Each…

When the actor struggles with the role but can’t say so — Shame is a soul eating emotion (Carl Jung) I mentioned in my first post after diagnosis that it wasn’t until that point I’d really understood what shame actually felt like. This was such a fundamental realisation I thought I’d expand on what I meant a bit more. To recap, in…

What do we do with this horrible dragon? — On my 25th birthday I got drunk enough to go dancing. This was a bad idea. I hate dancing. I have no good justification; for whatever combination of reasons, my body has simply decided that dancing is too much. Too much what, exactly, I can’t say. Too much vulnerability? Stimulation…

Be kind to yourself Shame Have you ever felt Shame after you did something or said something embarrassing? It is a horrible feeling. So often, people wander in their heads and wonder why they said a particular phrase or did something they felt was inappropriate. According to Daniels (2019), Shame is a powerful, intense…