The 12 Rules: Making a Poly Wife, Mono Husband Marriage Work
“Nothing you do as a poly wife is immoral or wrong and don’t let anyone lecture you or judge you. They can fuck themselves.”
by Brian O’Connell
How do you create the perfect marriage where the formula is flipped? How does a husband keep his wife when she has other lovers? A lot of the answers are counterintuitive and require patience more than anything else. What a husband is doing when entering into a partnership with a poly wife is allowing her all the happiness she can find in the world without guilt or any sense of betrayal. At the same time, you are giving her the security she needs to test her own freedom. Here are the rules that have made our marriage last the ten-year mark. These apply to both the lucky woman and the luckier man.
1. Unless a first date is an unmitigated disaster at the onset, don’t come back until the next morning. If your husband is hoping that you will climb into bed later in the evening with that just fucked smell about you, he’ll do what every other man would do and stay awake staring at the ceiling. That’s cruel. If he knows you aren’t coming home till the next day, he’ll go to sleep. Make that a steadfast rule at the outset of your marriage.
2. Let your lovers fall in love with you. It complicates life but that’s how it’s supposed to work.
3. Don’t let your husband call you on your phone. In our marriage that applies completely. I never call my wife and potentially interrupt her. She calls me. That stops the husband from staring at his phone and wondering if he should call.
4. If your lover asks you to spend the weekend or go away with him, do it if you can. Your husband can pick up the slack. The wife’s happiness is paramount in this sort of marriage and she should feel no guilt at spoiling herself.
5. If another relationship starts to intrude on your marriage, let it. At some points you and your lover will be more important than you and your husband. A husband is a constant, so don’t worry about him. Let yourself go with your lover. His place in your life is ephemeral.
6. If your lover wants to do something daring with you, like a threesome, do it. You don’t have to share everything with your husband immediately. You can tell him years later what you really got up to. That makes a woman exciting.
7. Don’t trust your girlfriends not to try to fuck your husband once they know that you have lovers. It’s a mistake to confide in people.
8. Don’t stop making cuckolding fun for your husband. Sex is fun even if only one person in the marriage is having a lot of it and the other isn’t. Make that imbalance erotic.
9. Encourage your lover to spoil you. You are a prize and he should cherish you as much as your husband does.
10. If you fall completely in love with someone, take a break from your marriage and get it out of your system. Don’t inflict it upon your husband. Don’t be afraid to take risks, he’ll be there when you come back.
11. If you do something incredibly stupid, like having your lover’s initials tattooed on your ass or having videos of you circulated throughout your small town, get over it. Your husband will forgive you.
12. Nothing you do as a poly wife is immoral or wrong and don’t let anyone lecture you or judge you. They can fuck themselves.
