The Hotwife Handbook
The Ultimate Guide to the Perfect Marriage
by Nancy Fairchild
nancy.fairchild@hushmail.com
Part 1. The Hunt
I’m not particularly happy now but that has nothing to do with my marriage. I’m just sick of this pandemic and I miss my previous life. I miss my husband and my lovers, and I miss living in a place where I can be spoiled. I’ve been stuck on an idyllic island for seven months with the same man and that relationship was stretched beyond the breaking point months ago. If I had a choice then I would be back in London, living with my husband and having him take care of me and going on dates and weekends away with my lovers. I would be planning my long winter holiday with Charles in the Caribbean. I would be seeing Adrian and my friends in Oxford. I would let Brian take me out shopping for holiday clothes.
Instead I am in a ‘pod’ of twenty people that has turned incestuous and in which I have performed about as badly as I ever have for the last five months. But, as bad as I am, I know Brian is there for me no matter what. He spoils me from 3,000 kilometers away to the envy of every woman here. We haven’t seen each other for over seven months, and I know he thinks of me every minute of every day, even when he knows I am in the arms of another man. He pays a fortune for me to be safe here. He’s hired a lawyer who has pulled all the strings to get my visa renewed three times. He sends me presents virtually every day and I always have something new to wear, read or watch.
I’ve been particularly slutty during this time but, you know, it will end, and I probably will never see the people I am with now ever again. Why not live life to the fullest? The only person who I allow to judge me would forgive all my sins without question. It wasn’t always like this. Eleven years ago I was married, like a good Jewish American woman should be, to a nice Jewish investment banker. I felt like I was going out of my mind until I ran into a younger gentile who was so beautiful I left with him one minute after we met and I was divorced and married to him two months later. Three months after that, my young husband moved us to London and that’s when the wild times started. Away from the judgment of others I started living the life I wanted to live.
During this time, I never had to worry for a minute about Brian. He is totally committed to me and would never cheat on me. It’s simply out of the question for him. He provides the security I need to be the woman I am, and he provides it in a style I am still getting used to.
I am going to tell you how you can do this too.
Having a marriage that allows you the freedom to enjoy the affections of other men whilst keeping a husband loyal and supportive should not be the only objective for a woman looking to live a life of adventure, it’s just a side benefit of finding the right man. If you find the right man, don’t worry, it’s a given that you will have other lovers and your husband will be happy that you do. Becoming a hotwife is more about finding the right man to care and nurture you than any immediate objective to widen your love life.
Before we get to how to identify the correct target for your hunt, let’s target you. Here’s where you ideally are:
1. 28 to 35 years old;
2. Married, but bored out of your mind or divorced because of the same reason;
3. Afraid of making the same mistake again;
4. Non-monogamous or aspiring to be;
5. Willing to take a risk to forever alter your life for the better.
If you meet these criteria then you are ready for the hunt, now you have to identify the prey. Here’s what you are looking for:
1. Single, 20 to 30 years old;
2. Handsome but unaware of the power of his looks;
3. Smart, ambitious, driven
4. Unselfish and generous to a fault
5. Monogamous
Now the guilt issue, addressed in two sentences. You will not be taking advantage of anyone. You are going to choose one man and make him the happiest he has ever been in his life.
An extremely positive sign that you have found the right man right off the bat is if he gets hard buying you something. That says it all. My husband does and he loves it.
You are seeking someone ideally younger you can overwhelm. That’s the key to the hunt. I’ll write about capture, training and other subjects in later editions of this. But you can’t start on this adventure without locating your prey and the first step for that is to turn off your laptop and enter into the real world because that’s where your future husband is.
If I hadn’t met Brian at a party, I would have met him at a bookstore, a library, a university campus or alone on a holiday in London, Paris or Berlin and he would have had no idea he was being stalked. Your future husband isn’t the ‘bad boy’ that you have been attracted to all your life. Your future husband is intelligent, well read and thoughtful. You can have all the ‘bad boys’ you want after you find the right husband.
Your future husband would be too scared to approach you because he would be too insecure about the sexual imbalance between you and him. By the time you will be married to him his insecurity will be long gone and he’ll consider himself to be the luckiest man in the world. And he’ll be right. The first step, though, is down to you.
So, open your eyes, consider that wedding ring on your finger catnip instead of an encumbrance. Nothing makes a woman more attractive to a single man than a wedding ring and if you start out your next marriage through an affair you have laid the perfect groundwork for the perfect marriage.
