Why A Narcissist Always Needs A Significant Other
They’re addicted to your supply — more than you would ever believe
Narcissists need an SO (significant other) or main supply to make them feel powerful and confident. The narcissist picked this particular person out because they have all the qualities that the narcissist desperately wants but will never have.
Some people believe that being the SO is the greatest achievement in the world, especially if they’re just a “side supply” for the narcissist. These people will do just about anything to try to knock the SO off her throne. They are completely delusional if they think they can replace the reigning SO.
The narcissist’s significant other must be the whole package. They are usually very attractive, intelligent, successful, charismatic, have great personalities, and are very confident as well.
Here are other reasons why narcissists need a SO:
They need the SO for arm candy when they go out in public.
They need someone to believe all their bullshit and lies.
They need a SO to hold up the mirror for them.
They need a human punching bag.
They need a SO to blame everything they do on them.
They need a SO on call to satisfy their sexual needs, one who doesn’t mind being treated like the hardest-working unpaid hooker in the world.
They need a SO so they don’t have to put any effort into the relationship. All they need to do is throw the SO some breadcrumbs from time to time.
They need a SO because you just can’t buy a better “doormat” anywhere.
A narcissist simply can’t live without a SO in his life. In most cases, the narcissist will already have a new shiny replacement ready to take the SO’s place if their current relationship is no longer working for the narcissist.
When the narcissist is ready, they will suddenly and without warning cruelly discard the current SO — without any remorse or closure.
However, if you were an SO who left the narcissist first, as I did, and immediately go “NO CONTACT”, cutting off any communication with the narcissist, there will surely be consequences for daring to leave the narcissist first. 15 months after leaving the narcissist I was involved with, I am still dealing with his wrath of revenge. He still stalks my phone, monitors my messages and email, gets into my phone settings, and even unblocks himself whenever he wants.
I have changed my phone number three times and nothing has changed except my attitude towards the whole situation.
I will never give the ex-narcissist any kind of attention or reaction ever again. I simply choose to ignore them and move forward with my life.
Written by, Cheryl Rick Klein
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