Are You Afraid of Being By Yourself?
I bet you don’t know you enough
Many people call themselves introverts.
Not because they enjoy being alone, but because they dread social gatherings.
They don’t know how to act, relate and communicate with other people, so they withdraw into their shells and stay home all day.
There’s nothing wrong with being by yourself.
In fact, you should enjoy being alone.
Not as some excuse for lack of social skills, but because you truly love you, want to know you, and want to spend more time with you.
Now, this is different from the toxic selfishness masquerading as self-love.
A healthy relationship with you is also different from staying by yourself as an escape mechanism.
They look similar, but you can easily tell when someone does not know or love themselves enough.
Many people are afraid of being truly alone.
Strip down your title, role, office work, side hustle, and relationships.
Can you live with only you?
Are you content with yourself?
Are you confident in yourself? No hyped up motivation. Just an awareness of you, your strengths and your flaws.
Is that enough for you?
I bet you don’t know yourself enough. In fact, an average person does not know himself as much as he knows the nitty-gritty live of his favorite role model.
Let’s try it.
Answer the questions below, and see how well you do:
- What are your core beliefs about yourself?
- Are you a good listener?
- How do you communicate your needs and boundaries?
Bravo to you, if you answered the three questions in a heartbeat with a 100% certainty.
But if you took time to pause, think, and were not even sure of your answers, you need to spend some more healthy time with yourself.
Grow yourself.
Learn you.
Know how you relate with yourself and others.
Note toxic traits and emotional patterns, then work them out.
The best way to be better for others, is to be better for yourself first.
